okay i know this is out of topic, but i really need all of your advice,
well a few years back i fell into the most horrible depression, and i tried to kill myself(no joke) by doing all different things, taking drugs,hanging my self, and cutting, well the cutting became a big issue, and i went through thearpy, but its all right im perfectly fine now, and i stopped all of that, but during while this was happening one of my ex-bestfriends, was jealous of the attention i was getting, so she decided to cut her arms and show them off to the whole entire school! and to this day she still does it, i try to talk to her about it, but she'll curse me out and say "stay out of my business!", and i dont understand that, when she says that because she goes off showing everyone her cuts just for ATTENTION! and it makes no sense, its getting even worse, and i wanna help her so badly because i had the same problem, and i hate that shes doing this for attention, our school sent her to get help, but she never went, and she wont go. and i really dont know what to do anymore.
so what do you guys think i should do? leave her alone? or help her out?
What the hell is wronge with hayleybutblonde ???
Good for you, but i'm not a teenager and you've obviously never been there... that or you're there right now and life is hard for you but instead of cutting or hurting yourself you're lashing out at other people so that they will feel just a little of the pain you're feeling... just remember.. tearing others down doesn't build yourself up...
get her help. cutting for 'attention' is still a problem...she clearly feels so lonely and unwanted if she is turning to this.
you shouldnt hate her for this or be mad at her for this. cutting is problem no matter what the reason is. be there for her...dont walk out on her because you feel she is doing it for attention.
no one cuts just for the attention...there is always a large underlying problem. help her figure it out!
i would help her out
i cut like a week ago...i didn't want attention...i was really emotional when i did cut
i don't know. she might be doing it for attention. i cut a few months ago cause i was sad, but i guess in a way i wanted attention. it might make her mad if you talk to her family
if it's really just for attention , she'll regret her scars one day anyway !
yeaah i had a friend kind of like that , but people weren't dumb and knew it was just to get attention so people didn't gave her attention & she totally stopped .
im gonna keep saying the same thing. And im gonna keep replying to this. I feel i need to help people like yur friend. I have a weird way of getting people to be happy. Someone said its just because iv gone through the pain so i know how to talk people out of it. IDK what it is , but i will help in any way possible. First u need to find out if it realy is depression or not. Or if its really just for attention then remember, Friends can do a lot for attention. But when a friend of mine from school killed themselves we all thought it was from the attention. But a private journal that I found in her locker revealed sooooooo much depressing info. If only Id known what it was all realy about. I couldv helped get him through it. I know how it feels. So my point. Keep trying. Even if u have to do it without her knowing. Just in case. If u dont and its realy about depression then toull regret it. Trust me. Dont give up.
I think u should leave her alone and I say this from experience. u cant force someone to change if she's doing it for attention then let her because she might have a deeper reason but be a good friend if she needs one
If she doesn't want to hear you... you can't do nothing else. But try to talk with her parents or with any professor.
You should definitely try and help her. Even if your just there to listen to her and be a friend. BTW, its really good that you stopped yourself and maybe telling her about your experience will also help her. Good Luck. Hope everything works out.
Well if she is doing it for attention the attention you give her feeds it. If you feel that it is a major problem, try talking to her parents. Let them know that the problem is growing. She might be mad, but these things tend to progress and get worse and worse. I know you know that, I was in the same boat as you my friend. Anyway, try and get some other people to talk to her if you can't. Branch out, it's not like you would be spreading her personal business. Good Luck.
it normally takes time to get out of.
help her out. there is probably another reason behind the attention seeking cutting. Also theres the fact that its just not a healthy or good habit for her to continue. btw well done yourself for getting through such a rough time in your life!
She probably has more problems, most likely back home. Try to understand. She probably thinks your preaching on her, which is why she is shunting the help.
If she doesn't want her help then leave her alone and tell someone who can help; a teacher, nurse, someone, otherwise you will just make things worse trying to do it on your own. If her mother is also ignoring you then it is obvious that she knows and understands something you don't.
Don't push it. Trust me, I've known a lot of people who used to cut but don't now that they have reached there twenties.
She can't be cutting badly if she does it all the time and shows it off, because she would get seriously infected and end up in hospital. . .plus she would be scared to hell.
I remember getting depressed once too, the day my first gf dumped me i thought it was the end of the world and i started blaming myself and stuff and thought about suicide. But people talked to me about it telling me not to do it and stuff, and i reconsidered and now im living a happy life and never thought about suicide again. Just try to get as much people to talk to ur friend about it,
okay. From what it sounds like she's NOT depressed. So there realy isnt any reason for it. But I still feel for u. Friends can do a lot for attention. But when a friend of mine from school killed themselves we all thought it was from the attention. But a private journal that I found in her locker revealed sooooooo much depressing info. If only Id known what it was all realy about. I couldv helped get him through it. I know how it feels. So my point. Keep trying. Even if u have to do it without her knowing. Just in case. If u dont and its realy about depression then toull regret it. Trust me. Dont give up.
i try to talk to her, but she ignores me, and her mom is no help either because she does the same thing, but i really want to help her because im afraid she might end up killing herself.
and thanks guys for your advice. :)
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i'd help her, she may not apreciate it now but when she looks back at this she'll realize what a good friend you were even if you aren't the best of friends now... the fact that she's just doing it for attention is a little... i don't know how to put it nicely, sick. but like ToxicPink, i think that she's not just doing it for attention, she's probably addicted to it at this point and can't stop. it's probably her realease now but like i said earlier, help her.
there's probably more to it than wanting attention. cutting is a cry out for help, even if the middleman is attention. my friend cuts, and i'm always worried about her. you should to help your friend as long as you realize that it is not your fault, your burden or your duty to do so. depression is a common disease. reach out to her parents, the school counselor, teachers, authorities, even friends of hers that might want to help out too. you shouldn't try to stop this alone.
Sarah Jay wrote an awesome comment there, read itt!!!
you could also possibly write her a letter with everything your feeling and everything you want her to know. i also agree with what the peeps below me said aswell :)
Hey congrats on making it out the other side of such a rough time in your life! I know from experience that it's not an easy thing to work through... It's cool that you want to help your friend.. perhaps think about why she feels she needs the attention? there could be a much, much deeper self worth/self loathing issue there.. maybe she feels worthless and like nobody notices her for who she is and saw that what you were doing got you attention(even if that wasnt the the motivation behind it) and she would have seen that when the people around you saw you hurting yourself they began showing you love which could be something she is searching for?
but also know that what she is doing is NOT your fault nor is it your burden to carry... I know when you've been through something so difficult and conquered it the natural tendancy is to want to fix all people's problems who are going through similar things and she was your best friend so it's understandable you hate seeing her go down such a horrible path but at the end of the day you're not qualified to help with this sort of thing and taking on her issues could cause you to end up with more problems of your own to deal with... and i know I don't know you but the chances are that you're still quite young yourself and not emotionally mature enough or equipped to deal with such a heavy issue on your own... talk to a trusted adult or like @aksarahb suggested, talk to your school counsellor.
Remember: There is always hope! your friend will get through this :)
sorry this was a long post haha it's a topic i'm passionate about!
I'm really sorry to hear that. If it truely is just a way to get attention, then lay off of it and don't give it to her. If it's not and its a cry for help, definitely keep trying. Maybe find out why she does it (other than to get attention) or try talking to a counselor at school about it.