okay,
Well my friend's first mum past away when she was six and now she has a step mum.
but she eevil.
i need advice. the step mum (lets call her Trina) is absulutly horrible to my friend and her sister.
e.g. the other day apperently they left the bathroom in a mess and Trina text my friend saying all these horrible things calling her names and saying that she wished she didnt exist
I've talked to my friend and she's said that the only person she can talk to is her grandmother, whom she said had tried to talk to my friends dad but it wouldnt get through his head
my friend is always worried at school about what will happen to her when she gets home. today she was tring to get a detention so she wouldnt have to go home.
me and the rest of our friends have tried helping but my friend is too scared to stand up to Trina because she doesnt want to make her dad upset. But i dont hink its fair becasue her and her sisters are horribly miserble with Trina.
All im asking is for some help, or what she or i should do to help her. Or if any of you have been through a situation alike . . .
thanks, Shezza x
@EevieRIOT! and @Rachel Burry
okay, i really appreciate all you posts but i never ment this to get into an argument so if you could both just stop commenting on each others posts and just wriet you own i would be thankful.
and @Rachel Burry my friend liked your plan (;
EevieRIOT! says (A moment ago)
@ Rachel Burry
how do you know what kind of situations i've been in? you know nothing about me
i was simply trying to help and i wasn't trying to force my ideas onto anyone that was just the most reasonable thing i could think of which is why i suggested it, and maybe if she told her parents then her friend could stay with her if it ever got really bad you know?
i didn't say anything about foster care cause that would be a last resort and i would never ever want a family to be split up
what is gonna happen if this trina person is violent towards the friend or her little sister?
Try inviting ur friend and her sister over ur house or out soo they spend less time with this witch women
@Eevie riot
Okay, your idea about tellling eople is good an all, but I'm just throwing it out there that it's the hardest thing on the planet to tell someone. I mean, there are the possibilities of nothing happening and everything just getting worse, or you're scared because if your dad continues to deny what's going on it feels like he doesnt love you at all. Or that he could disown you, or someone could tell cps too early in and you would be sent to foster care in another city with different people. Telling an adult actually isn't always the right decision, k? It may seem like it at a glance, but then again you're lucky enough to have never been in this situation before.
@ paramore_freak
and has telling her worked? no so you need to take more action
i'm sorry i really don't mean to be rude or anything but your friend is at risk and maybe your parents could speak to her dad?
Perhaps she needs psychological help. That isnt normal.
@ EevieRIOT!
as i said we have told an aduldt, my friends grandmother. and i know taht teh rest of teh family know about trina so thats plenty of adults. its just my friends dad
@ paramore_freak
you need to tell a grown up, what if it gets worse that your friend gets hurt by the horrible step mum? too many bad things happen cause people don't speak up or leave things too late
and also rachel burrys ideas are great
@ Rachel Burry
WOW! umm thankyou so much. im deffinetly showing her everythign you've said this should help a wholoe heap and i love you plan as well (:
thankyou
PS: have her save those text messages. Never ever ever ever delete proof. ever.
Rachel's Genious Plan That She Wish She Had Come Up With When Her Evil Step Mother Was Around. AKA: The RGPTSWSHCUWWHESWA
Step one: She needs to make a list. Take a week to write down all of the horrible things she says. Also, set up a video camera somewhere, maybe in her room or bathroom.
Step two: Make the room with the camera hidden in it a little messy, just enough to have the stepmom flip out. Record it, and other instances, the more footage the better.
Step three: Take your list and present it to your Dad and Stepmom. When she denies it, take out the video camera and show your Dad. Your stepmom is now put into the light of being an abusive liar.
Okay, here is what happens if that doesn't work, or this is just the alternatives to the RGPTSWSHCUWWHESWA.
Idea One: Have her old a gathering of family and friends while her stepmom is out. Try and have everyone talk to the Dad.
If this doesn't work, I'm so very sorry, but the only other way I can see her getting out of this is A: A psychiatrist getting on her side. B: Time OR C: CPS. CPS is last minute resort, if she threatens to kill her or something. But they have to be there. Just make sure she realizes the good and bad consequences of calling CPS. If it's an emergency, though, it must be done. And if she doesn't do it, YOU do it. It could save her life. Don't make her wait 2 years like I did.
Alright. ABout to dig in to a very upsetting part of my life. *breathes deeply*
Okay, so 3 years ago my Dad decided to remarry a women, let's just call her G. She seemed like a cool person at first, but she drank a lot. Turns out that she was addicted to every drug, substance, and alcohol in the book. She constantly cursed at me and my sisters saying mean, disgusting things. She would wake everyone up at midnight just to tell us all that our dad didn't love us anymore. She even tried to choke me once, and she said she would kill me.
Wow. Those are a few things I truly do not like to remember. The worst part of it all was the fact that my dad KNEW it was happening, yet he always stood up for her, agreed with her, etc. Well 2 years later he finally kicked her out, and a few months after that she was admitted into a psych ward. SO I'm truly not making this up, this was BAD.
Anyways.
The first thing she absolutely has to do is talk to her dad. start calmly, explain the things she calls her. Talk about how if her dad wouldn't say those things, then why would her marry someone who did? Honestly, the more points she makes, the better it's going to be. And if it elevates and turns into a tear stricken match where she has to yell, "Why don't you love me, daddy?" then that's where it's going to go. She just needs to take 30 minutes to try and cram it into his head, as much as possible, so he can at least think about it.
Secondly, take a week to cool down. Talk to him a second time, ask him if he's changed his opinion. If yes, good, start figuring out a way to get the witch outa the house. If not, then she needs a giant plan. I'll explain that plan to you above this ^^^ K?
@EevieRIOT!
we all know that thats exactly what she should do. but she wont come arounf to the idea of it, but we'll keep trying.
and, i havent told my parents becasue she said not to tell anyone else and to swear by it and i dont break my promises
ok your friend needs to talk to her dad about how unhappy all this is making her, when this woman married your dad she knew he had daughters and she needs to respect that
your friend can't go on living in fear, she is gonna make herself get ill, just keep re assuring her and offer to go with her to talk to her dad and if he doesn't believe your friend get her to show her dad the texts that were sent
telling her dad she is unhappy isn't gonna make him and trina split up so you need to tell her this, have you tried talking to your own parents about what's going on?
thanks, but she wont talk to her dad at all beacuse she thinks it'll hurt her dad if Trina and her dad split and she dont wnat that
and i dont think she'd ever tell a teacher . .haha. . . . .
i've got also an evil step mother!
i'm always sweet to her and she is saying all bad things bout me! i really hate that!
your friend and sister have to say it to someone in school, a teacher or something, they can talk to her dad, saying they are really unhappy bout what she does...
but first they have to say it to there dad... and to trina, without screaming... just 'trina, i don't like how you do to me, it makes me sad'
something, like that...
donnow,
hope this helps