i have.
it started with people calling me "fat" and escalated from there. (note: apparently im not actually fat at all, yes, it is true im curvy, but definately not fat. if anything, im verging on the skinny side.)
i became self concious, depressed and incredibly unhappy. the weird thing was, i wasnt a loner , nor considered as a "freak", "geek" or "loser". just "fat".
i have / had plenty of friends, and i was considerably popular among classmates and all. Im not dumb, nor a genius. i excel in all things to do with words and art, apparently. So why did a couple of boys continually call me fat?
i told my friends, the said ignore them. so i did. but of course, i allways knew the abuse was still coming and coming. Then it died down for a while. but of course, i still was more than ever worried about myself. Looks all of a sudden were the only thing that mattered.
I pushed aside the fact that i was growing, which of course, made me put on weight, and blamed it on saying that i "over ate" . i cried myself to sleep most nights, and dreaded going to school.
how old was i? i was ten. 10 years old. i should of been happy , not worrying about my weight and what i looked like!
I got better, started feeling better and all. BUt the fact that i still think im fat has never escaped me, i still dont know if it will.
even now, a couple of years later, every day when i look in the mirror i still think im fat, i still am over-comed with annoyance of my weight and sadness that i cant "look like everyone else and be as pretty as her, or look like her" im always comparing myself and my weight to my friends, which normally makes me even more unhappy and sometimes depressed.
What worries me this time, is that even though i havent experienced bullying for a while, im beginning to be more angry, sad and self consious than ever. Im normally feeling depressed, it doesnt help that i dont get along with my dad.
but the worst part is, the option of suicide, cutting and purging is becoming more and more attractive to me. i try and push the thoughts away but they keep coming back. i cut myself deliberately today, and im afraid that one day if i become so sad or angry and i'll make the mistake of killing or really hurting myself. At this moment in time, it seems pretty likely.
So to anyone (particuly girls) who are unhappy about their weight, or have been bullied about it, i have one thing to say.
Dont let it get to you, because it WILL creep up on you, and it WILL take control. And if you dont convince yourself that your perfect the way you are (which you are!) you'll regret it when you've dug your own hole and are trying to get out, because the longer you brew in your unhappiness, the harder it is to break free.
im really tall. ive always been the tallest out of ALL the kids in my grade, including the boys. i was also super skinny, because i was so tall. a few years ago, when i was about 11 or 12, 2 boys at school started calling me a beast. i wasnt really sure if they meant it in a positive or negative way, but they said it so much i really started to take offense. then one day i broke donw crying to my mom because i felt so bad so she told the principal. then one day it all stopped. turns out one of them liked me.
and there's this othere buy at my school who is really short. he called me beautiful. that took major guts.
things do get better.
@Lydia
"I can't remember who said it, but, "I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not." "
The late great Kurt Cobain.
Music Is My Life says
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People just look at you and suddenly they think they know you and just bother you because they think they are superior to you, but everyone is perfectly crafted, with their special spot in life, to do what they are meant to do, be who they are meant to be.
Every single person has their place in this world, life is kind of like a puzzle, you have millions of different pieces, but they all make one picture, one beautiful perfect picture.
I used to get picked on at school for what I wore, and I got called stupid by one kid but I told them that it didn't matter to me so, why should it matter to you. But even now I still get the occasional weird glances, but why hang out with them when I can be with my amazing family and great friends. Gotta love the people who really love you for you!
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Everyone has their own personalities, their own tastes, their own talents. EVERYONE is important, and no one should be treated in such mean ways. Be yourself and be who YOU want to be, not the person everyone else wants you to be. No one is perfect, but everyone is perfect in their own way, sometimes the most perfect things about yourself, is your flaws. Just because you aren't good at one thing, doesn't mean your not even better at a million more.
If people are bullying you, as mean as it is, I guess you have to wonder what kind of a life they come from, then you can truly understand who they are. Even so, no one should be unkind to anyone else. When people bully others, I can't believe what they say, how do you not hear yourself, how do you let those words and actions come from you? There is a good person inside of them, but they have let that person go, because maybe they have experienced it too.
I hate bullying, people can be so superficial about everything, all that seems to matter to people is what you look like, what you wear, and if your that person that everyone envies.
Just because you listen to a certain kind of music, or dress a certain way, or like certain things, that maybe no one else likes, doesn't make you a loser or an outcast or unimportant. It makes you.....YOU!
If I put ten different people in a room, and gave everyone a blindfold, you couldn't tell who form who, the only thing you could do is show them who you really are, and that's what they will see, and you might see people who you never imagined speaking with there, and you relating to them.
(I have to finish this on another one.)
Ive been bullied, but its worse when the person bullying you, is in your family. Till this day, i am still afraid of my sister. Its best to just hold you head up high. They are nothing but haters. The best way to get back at someone, is to be happy. And above all, be yourself. You have to be yourself, because everyone else is already taken...
I agree with what everybody else has said. Haters are going to hate because that's all their narrow minds have the capacity for. Everybody is beautiful in their own way, so don't let them get to you.
I was bullied when I was younger for liking rock bands, wearing Converse and 'weird' clothes. Five years later, liking rock bands is the norm and everybody wears Converse and skinny jeans. I've been called everything, fat, worthless, ugly, etc, but I never let them get to me because they do not deserve a second thought. Don't dwell on the bad people, focus on your friends and family who love you for who you are.
I can't remember who said it, but, "I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not." There is no reward in striving to be something other people want you to be, it's exhausting.
Yeah, people constantly are saying that kind of stuff to me. It used to get to me, but music, especially artists like Lady Gaga just proved that everyone is different in awesome ways. MCR too, they proved that messed up kids end up getting far in life. Now, I dress how I want, and I honestly don't care what other people think of it. I don't care if they think I look stupid, or I look fat, or I look ugly because I'm not out to impress them. I spent too long caring about what people thought and I just don't see the point anymore. Since I've stop caring I'm so much more confident. Do I love the way I look? No, but that's not going to stop me from being who I am. I ended up being a boring reclusive kid when I cared, but it's awesome to not care, it's so much more fun. Why try to be the perfect looking cool kid when I can have so much more fun with less pressure? Sometimes things still get to me, but that's just a part of life really, but you know, I don't care.
@ButterflyKokoro
I get bullied cos I like anime manga !!!
Cause they call me a "emo" to seperate me they bully me ... they tell me to go cut myself and stuff. You no that paramore song I caught myself they say I CUT MYSELF !! Stupid right ... I am emo as they would call it I'm a proud gothic emo nerd so I don't carfe but they annoy me ...
I get bullied in school by some boys cause I like drawing this thing called manga (japanese style drawing). They kept making stupid and rude comments about every drawing I drew! They still do it now but yet do they not know everyone else 'loves' my drawings and they look like complete idiots! :P
Don't let those stupid boys get in your way! Everytime they make a stupid comment at you just smile and say "sure, you just keep beliving that, but we all know its a lie"
You are how you're meant to be, if you weren't then you wouldn't be that way.
For a long time I told myself to be funnier, more outgoing and to just be cool. I'd always felt inadequete to everyone, like I could be so much better. I'm not meant to be though, I am who I am.
There are those that happily judge that, who relish in the thought of making people unhappy. They don't like it when it's done to them though, it's pathetic. I've been called all sorts "fag" "emo" "go cut yourself" "fucking prick" and loads of other things. It used to bother me, but then I realised that if they don't like me then why should I care? They're nothing to me. If they're so superficial that they'll hate me because of how I look then fine, I don't want them in my life.
What you're going through is pretty ordinary. Self harm is a very common thing, especially because of how you look and feel about yourself. It's a pretty common thing among girls going through puberty. There WILL come a time when you stop, when you realise you're being ridiculous and when you gain confidence in yourself.
There are girls I know who are pretty obese and aren't that attractive that are pretty confident. They can say they don't care and mean it. I'm not being harsh in saying that btw, just truthful.
You probably won't feel it now, but most people do go through similar insecurities. I like how I look some days and don't others. It's a human inconsistancy, we strive to be perfect. So one day we happen to somehow have amazing hair, you look for that the next time you do your hair otherwise it's shit, right? Everyone does it.
When comparing yourself to someone else, remember, you aren't them. They are how they are
As Ke$ha says. "We R Who We R". She might not be the most grammatically correct person, but hey, she has a point.
"so raise your glass if you are wrong in all the right ways"
"Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel, like you're less than fucking perfect" P!nk, another brilliant woman.
When I was seven, I was bullied by a lot of people in my class, some ways were stupid and I don't think it was bullying, but apparently it was...
I was sworn at by 3 girls constantly, they were the worst.
I'm not even gonna put down what they would say...
And then they called me things like "idiot" and "freak" and "weird", yet I was the smartest in my class, and just because I listened to rock music and watched movies like Lord Of The Rings, I was weird??
Then, other people started joining in...
They commented on everything I did, like having Nutella on brown bread...
Apparently that was the most disgusting thing ever and no wonder I was so fat!!
I laughed at the guy who said that to me because he was obese and I was a twig!!
xD
But seriously, it was horrible, I couldn't do anything right...
I still do get bullied but I stand up for myself, because I know I'm better than them.
I used to get picked on for having ginger hair, It really bugged me at first and I used to go home crying, saying I wanted to dye my hair (I didn't want to dye it, I just wanted people to leave me alone) my parents sat me down and spoke to me saying I shouldn't dye it because of them and to be proud because I'm different and not the same as most people. I then started to try and ignore it, It would still get to me but I wouldn't say anything, then eventually, they realised I didn't care and they stopped saying it. I do still get other people now and again who try to be funny but I just give them a cheesy grin and be like 'yeah...so?' and walk on (;
When I was in junior high the biggest kid in school picked on me and my friends.
Eventually one day I snapped and attacked the bully and punched him in his fat face. Him (nor any of his little henchmen) ever messed with us again. It was awesome!
Everyone has been put down by someone else at some point in there lives. Why? Cause people want to make themselves feel better. When they bully, they feel like they're superior to you. But only if it gets to you. Just remember that anything they say isn't even worth a second thought. We aren't all made to look the same. We aren't supposed to have the same shape or size and there's no definition of beauty. There's so much pressure to look a certain way, but really, who needs to be super thin? You don't need to be the skinniest person in the world to have a good life. Someone out there thinks you're beautiful. There are people who love you. You said yourself you have friends. They love you. You know what you've been told by a couple guys doesn't mean anything. Especially with guys, who, when with all their friends, just want to show off and look cool. I had the same thing happen to me. (And I was 10 too actually) and it brought me down until I really thought about it. Anyone whos said that about you, anyone who thinks its okay to bring someone down, is someone that doesn't deserve a second thought. If you focus on all the people who you know care about you instead of some low-lifes who don't even know you and just judge to make themselves feel better, you'll realize how small they are. Don't let people like that ruin you because there are so many more important things.
Sorry if this was just a bunch of rambling. Hope it made some sense :)
I was bullied a lot when I was younger, mainly because I was always quiet and didn't have any friends. People called me "weird" and "antisocial". It bothered me a lot, but now I've learned to ignore it and it doesn't happen as much now that I'm older.
Bullying sucks. people who bully others for their own comfort have nothing better to do with their lives. one of the worst thing about bullying is when the bullies win. How they win is when the victim starts to believe everything they say, even though it's not true. You didn't think you were heavy before people were being immature, and you shouldn't think that you are now just because people say so. we are all created beautiful. every single one of us on earth. don't worry about what people have to say. there are way to many critics out there and it's just a waste trying to find them all. we are all made differently. some people can't accept that, but that's their problem. not yours.
remember that you are never alone and that we are all here for ya. don't let the bullies get to ya. stay strong. please don't cut yourself. fill your mind with happy thoughts. do things you love. hang out with your friends. make the voices inside your head like you. if you ever need anyone to talk to, we're all here for you. :) hope this helped a little. remember, you're not alone. =)