Im sorry ppl if i annoy u with my stupid and annoying problems haha but there's this dude who's pretty much my best buddy, he's kool, funny and knows a bunch of weird facts that make me laugh! the bad thing about him is that he has his perv moments -_-" SIGHHH
but most of the time he's normal and a good, loyal friend. AAAAND i might have a litttttllllleeee crussh on him. Could my feelings for him ruin our perfect chillaxing friendship? My friends say he totally looks like he likes me too and idk if i should b happy and excited or bummed out in a way this could just get awkward. Again sorry, i no ur probably tired of stupid shit like this but im a messed up teenager :) haha... kinda.
So.. anyone ever gone through this? some advide plz??
i mean if you lofe him enough to date him go for it
but if i doent work out ur friendship with him will go down the hill trust me
we been their :p
but over all good luck dude
how cute!
I'm in the same position atm. Don't really know how to handle it.
I've been in love with my best friend for 4 years. We even dated and broke up.
Now she's dating a guy who hates me and is pretty nasty to her.
We're closer than ever.
not gone through this but had people around me stress out about it, talk it through with him, see his views and if he thinks you could have a good relationship then go ahead, but if he doesn't just wait or accept that it's not gonna happen!
=]
nothing is more rewarding and perfect than having a best friend as ur bf.who doesnt want their boyfriend to be their best friend? isnt that the point? :P just go for it. and if he doesn't like u that way...if ur both really good friends, you'll stay that way no matter how awkward you feel. you'll get over it. :) your best buds!
I gone through this too.my friends liked this guy so she told me to "investigate" for her.well me and this guy became really close.he told me alot.I fell for him and a couple months later he admitted to me that he liked me.we were togethr for about a year but we broke up.I thought i lost a good friend but I still talk to him alot.were still super close.
awwwwwww
I let it go. Back when I was just in High School, I had a guy friend whom I'm most comftable with. I mean he can pull my hair and hit me and do silly stuffs like that without any malice. I started falling for him but I figured our friendship might be risked. I was so effing confused that time, but i just told myself to stop, I don't want anything bad to happen with us, I mean our friendship.
I didn't have the courage to do so. But no regrets! :)
I have the same problem. I rejected him and i didnt even know it. I rarely get to see him, but our parents what us to be together. hes the only guy my dad is COMPLETELY cool with. ^^
Yeah I went through this. I think everrrrrryone does. Wait for him to say he likes you then you can confess your feelings too.
it happens to all of us.........
makes one feel like crap, actually i became gurlfriend of one of my boy bff but we broke up a month ago but the amazing part was that i had a crush on him 4 a year so dreams do come true!!!!!!!
hey wats up? u probley don`t care but i thought i`de up-date u on my closest friend-maybey crush-dumbass-problem
well just yesterday he informed me that his gf(who goes to a different school)dumped him wich was bitter-sweet cuz i sad for him but happy for me cuz it gives me a better chance.oh and i figured out a way to make him hug me just play basketball with him cuz if i have the ball he`ll try and wrap his arms around me to try and get the ball.....one problem i suck ass at b-ball.my friends have stoped trying to force him cuz i told them i knew what i was doing and that it may take time but i goin slow and so far we`re doin good we get a little closer everyday.if my friends were trying to make him he would just be stubborn(hes very stuborn) and he would just try and prove a point to them and tell himself "i don`t like her" but by me doing it slowly he will realize it on his own.oh and me and him e-mail so we`re really getting somewhere
I used to hang out with this guy that i had a total crush on. He was funny, gorgeous, intelligent. We also had loads in common - it turned out we were both gay. Needless to say it went nowhere...lol. He is still a good mate though.
Anyway i did have a point before my mind wandered into my dim and distant past.
Hannibal Lector said "We covet what we see everyday". Admittedly a cannibal serial killer, but he was also right psychologically. If you are in any place for a while you will start to fancy somebody there, unless there are really NO options.
Maybe if you were away from this guy for a while you wouldn't fancy him.
He may be 'pervy' because he is trying to hit on you, because he fancies you too. Alternatively he could just be trying his luck, and then if he's successful won't want to be mates with you.
Sad as it sounds, i would do the whole "my friend fancies your friend thing", and get one of your mate to talk to one of his. Or if you have a mutual friend, get them to investigate.
dont let it bother u to much i meen if anything it could be the best thing to have a good friendship turn into something more because u know its someone u have stood through life with a lot of the way i would be hopeful on what happens next and if anything bad happens in the end u guys know eachother to well to loose that close friendship
i had practucally this exact same problem about a month ago. but the crush passed and now were just back to how we were before. the guy you described is exactly like my friend too.
i actually have the exact same problem ¬_¬' and i'm really lost. you could try and talk to him.. :b' or wait for it to go over. so sorry, but i don't have a better advice :/
thanks guys, thnx for helping me and giving me tons of advice. Ya, this is why para-fans are epic XD
been there done that. it was quite funny. but nothing happened. its up to you. it didnt affect our friendship. so i hope it wont affect yours.
i dont fancy him as such anymore. but i still get jealous. its weird but aha. yeah
yeah i know it`s REALLY akward when we`re walking down the hall talking and laughing and then ur friend is like"r u guyz going out" and then we say at the same timw "NO" then the person that asked is like"dang it" cuz all my friends want me 2 go out with him!!!! UGH
well with your answers it seems like you really care about him- it's really tough luck that he transferred schools... has he transferred far away or...? if you have his cell phone number maybe you could call him and you could meet for a day out or a chat somewhere that's good for the both of you. It could help things out a lot.
When your friends say that he likes you then he probably does. I was like that see- i was too caught up in him to realise the way he acted when he was with me. Analyse him a bit more and maybe you can figure out the was he acts with you and other people- it could figure out what he feels for you. Trust your friends observations of you two together and maybe things will work out better.
Because you and him are so close you might think that if you try it out, that if things don't work out too great they will mess up your friendship, if anything the friendship you guys have would make your relationship stronger because you both know each other so well already.
I really do hope things turn out all right for you. If you need any more advice or support comment my profile maybe; I'd be happy to try and help :) and I'll probably come and see if anything's evolved from the situation on here.
Hope this helps & everything works out soon :)
i wish i could give you good advise, i went through this i liked him and i thouht he might like me too, well idk why but he just stopped talking to me, i guess we arent friends anymore.....
anyway i'm pretty sure this wont happen to you so just trust yourself
@deshiznit, wow, ur ur going through the same thing as me! i mean, he has a gf and ppl say "r u with him?" that has turned awkward lol
@Jessicaar .. hmm i do of him alot, like, "wow i wish he was here, he wouldve loved this!"
i feel alot more comfortable with him, and its so much fun
and yes, he makes me smile. alot. :)
i really wanna talk to him, were close but its hard since he tranferred skools :\
well one of my best buds thought i like him (which wasnt ture) and he told me and i laughed in his face and told him whoever told him that was on crack, but then he said mabey we should distance ourselfs from each other and he walked away. i tried talking to him the next day and treated me like a piece of shit for a week. i was sooooo pised that when he came up to me one day i yelled at him and walked away. he soon became my friend again but it never was the same. that is the only experience that is over with (i currlently like my best guy friend too) i really hope things work out for you
never been through that cause i hardly have any guy friends,come to think of it,i dont have ANY guy friends,but i can see why you might think it may ruin the friendship thats something to worry about but if he likes you alot then maybe it can work.hope that helps.
I've been through the same thing which I think many girls have but to be honest yes I do think it can ruin a relationship the guys always say no it won't but it always turns out to be akward
omg i`m going through the EXACT same thing!!! my best guy friend is someone who is ALWAYS making me laugh,he`s very caring,he always listens 2 wat i have 2 say&my ideas(we`re writing a book 2gether) but every one in a while he bust out and says something super pervertive & immature.and it`s just that combination that makes me think i like him.but ya see the problem 4 me is he already has a girlfriend.so when i told my friends they said"oh u and garrett would look sooooooo cute 2gether"and now they`re talking 2 him trying 2 convence him 2 go out with me!!! even his best friend thinks he should go out with me UUUGGGHHHH i`m a messsed up pre-teen
You basically need to consider your feelings first; ask yourself
1. do you always think about him?
2. are you more happy and comfortable with him than some of your other friends?
3. is he someone that can make you smile on your darkest days?
you know stuff like that. but you really just need to talk to him and tell him cause i've been in this situation before and it ended well. just sit down with him and tell him whats on your mind- the perv moments may be because hes falling for you aswel and he may not have the confidence to say anything. you just need to start things yourself cause nothing will happen otherwise.
your not a messed up teenager- all of us teens go through phases like this and you dont need to put yourself down thinking your life i messed up because every teen has likely been through it before.
Talk to him- things will turn out fine :-)
Katie is completely right
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